How to Figure Out Your Core Values (Without Overthinking It)

Okay, let’s be real—when was the last time you sat down and thought, “What do I actually value in life?” Probably not recently, right?

Life moves fast, and between work, relationships, and trying to drink enough water, deep self-reflection often takes a backseat.

But here’s the thing: Knowing your core values makes everything clearer.

It helps you make decisions with confidence, set boundaries without guilt, and live in a way that actually feels right. The problem? Most of us have no idea where to start.

If you’re in that boat, don’t stress—I’ve got you. Here are five super simple ways to figure out what truly matters to you (without spiraling into an existential crisis).

First, pay attention to your gut reactions. Ever had a situation where something just felt wrong or incredibly right, but you couldn’t explain why? That’s your values talking.

When something lights you up or seriously irritates you, ask yourself: Why do I feel this way? The answer usually points to a core value.

Next, think about the people you admire. Who inspires you? Whether it’s a friend, a public figure, or even a fictional character, take note of what draws you to them. Do you love their honesty? Their ambition? Their kindness? The qualities you admire in others often reflect what matters most to you.

Another way to uncover your values is to reflect on your best and worst life moments. Think back to a time when you felt completely fulfilled—what was happening? Now, do the opposite.

Recall a time when you felt totally drained or out of place. The good moment likely aligned with your values, while the bad one probably clashed with them. Spot the patterns, and you’ll start seeing what’s most important to you.

It also helps to define success on your terms. Forget what society says success should look like. If money, titles, and accolades weren’t factors, how would you define a successful life?

Maybe it’s about meaningful relationships, creative freedom, or making an impact. Your version of success reveals what truly matters to you.

Lastly, try making a "No List." Sometimes, it’s easier to figure out what we don’t want than what we do. Write down things that don’t align with you—jobs that feel soulless, relationships that drain you, or expectations that don’t fit.

Then, flip that list around. If you hate dishonesty, honesty is likely a core value. If you hate dishonesty, honesty is likely a core value. If routine bores you, maybe you value adventure.

Figuring out your values isn’t about following a strict formula—it’s about paying attention to yourself. And the best part? Once you’re clear on them, decision-making gets so much easier. No more overthinking every little thing. You’ll just know what’s right for you.

So, take some time, reflect, and trust yourself. Your values are already there—you just have to notice them.

Tiana Joelle